AGENDA 6
What are the 3 Adult Consciousness Skills?
STAGE 6-BE YOUR OWN AUTHORITY and HEAL YOUR CHILD CONSCIOUSNESS

WEEKEND THEME
You can grow up into the brilliance of your true self and stop letting your attachment system be in charge!You can’t raise your consciousness without self-love just like you can’t change old patterns without (1) feeling (2) then transforming the pain held there. Change means you notice mistakes, take inventory, give yourself love and kindness so the parts that held you back awaken to their light. Thank your mistakes for they are the arrow pointing the way to higher consciousness. The wisdom and transformation opportunities you can gain are best found from the mistakes and not the areas you have already mastered! This is adult consciousness. Our adult must learn to be the good enough mother/father energy so our un-evolved child consciousness awakens to be the wholeness it always was.

Just as a leaf separated from the tree will be blown by the wind, your state of being could be lost by your unsupportive attachment patterns. When this happens and the victim knocks on your door, you can turn it away and seek a deeper truth. So in this class, deepen your ability to discover how Core Being can determine your inner peace and not your attachment system’s reactivity.

• SECRET CODE FORMULA AND STAGES TO MASTER
  As you are the CEO of our own life and creations, you then can commit to moving through the Secret Code Formula (5 Steps/Skills/Laws and 3-Rings). This is because you can align to lean into the pain that is holding LVC. You are able to do this because you are the authority on yourself and not the LVC (negative beliefs/thoughts) moving through you.This weekend, advance your skills in this area so the quantum reality before you is only energy and not ego and pain. Know you are enough even if you have failed in the moment to know this truth. Your value doesn’t have to be better than another for all of us are whole. Our job is to more and more live from that wholeness. Remember this, all day long and you will advance your joy, abundance and positive relationships.
• STUDENT SKILLS/OUTCOMES
  • Master the interventions taught this week and deepen your understanding of the consciousness skills (EO, CB, Intention, Explorer’s Mind; 5 Steps)
  • Advance your ability to live from the quantum truth in the moment and transform the LVC back to wholeness. As you remember this, all day long and you will (inch worm) advance your ability to manifest.
  • Advanced your ability to master Stage 6 of ME-B Transformation more of the time.
  • Ability to work energetically with Child Consciousness and track developmental regression of self and client at a deeper level.
  • Ability to heal attachment challenges, inch by inch. Self-love heals all attachment challenges. Love is most important when you are imperfect and have made a mistake for this is when you need it most!
• INTERVENTIONS
  • Adult Consciousness-3 Skills Triangle
  • Transforming Child Consciousness
  • Is This Absolutely True (Byron Katie)
  • Victim Triangle –Where are you? What false self keeps you there and what do you need to transform to let it go?
  • Building your consciousness container and helping a client do the same
• TRACKING DEVELOPMENTAL LEVELS
  • Working Energetically With Child Consciousness
  • Interventions on Developmental Regression
• CONTAINMENT PRACTICE and BUILDING YOUR CONTAINER
• CASE PRESENTATION/GROUP SUPPORT

MeB Child Healing Meditation

MeB Adult Attachment Meditation

TLC HOMEWORK
DUE THE MONDAY BEFORE CLASS BEFORE CLASS 7

Print Name; Class Number and Date on the top of each page and number each page and use .doc word only with your name and class number as the file name

• Read chapters 18-19.
• What do you need to transform so you master Stage 6? Again, Stage 6 is when you have come through the void and you are on the other side and a new sense of self is now needing to be embodied and integrated. Answer the question, who are you now? And, what is the Core Distortion (attachment pattern and emotional pain) holding you back, preventing Stage 7 from happening. Stage 7 is when you find your home is within you and when you feel alone, you no longer have to be lonely; practice transforming this energy. Do this by embodying the 3 Skills of Adult Consciousness, and healing any child consciousness in the way. Use what I call the Secret Code Formula – the 5 steps/skills/laws. Write a brief summary of what transformed.
• You can’t raise your consciousness or move up in the Stages if you don’t build your energy and biological consciousness container. Write down what you need to do to build your container (inch worm style). Create a healing plan on how to build your biological consciousness container. Use the video and the document in the student portal to guide you and also review page 297 in the book.
• Bring a picture of yourself as a child to the next class!
• Find a period of time (2-3 days) when you are stressed. Watch yourself and journal about adult consciousness. Observe your edges in maintaining adult consciousness then write up what was hard for you and what you learned about returning to adult consciousness and being able to give, ask and receive, and give to self when others can’t give to you.
• Explore how our external world is the result of our internal balance. Specifically look how any belief system is a self-fulfilling prophecy.For instance, “if I am emotionally supported by others, I will be hurt” or I am a victim or…
  Find the negative belief you need to explore. Then look how YOU can shift internally, so that YOU shift internally to a place of inner joy and balance. For instance, in using the example above (1) feel your fear that others will hurt or attack you. (2) Find where it is held energetically in your mind, body and energy system. (3) Using your Enlightened Observer, look at the past and present of how this negative belief actually created the situation of being hurt. Write up a brief summary of how you can change internally so that externally you don’t relive the negative belief.
• Write up one ME-B Guide Session on 3 Skills of Adult Consciousness/ using the homework write up form.

READING CLASS 6

Explorer’s Mind – A Map to Freedom, Read chapters 18-19

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love; Amir Levine

Beattie, M. (1992). Codependent no more: How to stop controlling others and start caring for yourself.Center City, MN: Hazelden Foundation.

Other readings you might want to explore on attachment!

Bowlby, J. (1988). A secure base: Parent-child attachment and healthy human development. New York, NY: Routledge Publishing.
Attachment and Caregiving:  Attachment in Clinical Practice with Adults
Lecture by Carol George
BIPR, 4 November 2011

Finn, S. (2011). Use of the Adult Attachment Projective Picture System (AAP) in the middle of a long-term psychotherapy. Journal of Personality Assessment, 93, 427-433.

George, C., Isaacs, M., & Marvin, R. S. (2011). Incorporating attachment into custody evaluations: The case of a 2-year old and her family. Family Court Review, 49, 483-500.

George, C., & Solomon, J. (2008). The caregiving system: A behavioral systems approach to parenting. In J. Cassidy & P. R. Shaver (Eds.), Handbook of attachment: Theory, research, and clinical applications (2nd ed., pp. 833-856). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

George, C., & Solomon, J. (2011). Caregiving helplessness: The development of a screening measure for disorganized maternal caregiving. In J. Solomon & C. George (Eds.), Disorganized attachment and caregiving (pp. 133-163). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

George, C., Solomon, J., & McIntosh, J. (2011). Divorce in the nursery:  On infants and overnight care. Family Court Review, 49, 521-528.

George, C., & West, M. (2001). The development and preliminary validation of a new measure of adult attachment: The Adult Attachment Projective. Attachment and Human Development, 3, 30-61.

George, C., & West, M. (2011). The Adult Attachment Projective Picture System: Integrating Attachment into Clinical Assessment. Journal of Personality Assessment, 93, 407-416.

George, C., & West, M. (in press). The Adult Attachment Projective Picture System. New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Isaacs, M., George, C., & Marvin, R. S. (2009). Utilizing attachment measures in custody evaluations: Incremental validity. Journal of Child Custody, 6, 139-162.

Lis, A., Mazzeschi, C., Di Riso, D., & Salcuni, S. (2011). Attachment, assessment, and psychological intervention: A case study of anorexia. Journal of Personality Assessment, 93, 434-444.

Smith, J. D., & George, C. (in press). Therapeutic assessment case study: Treatment of a woman diagnosed with metastatic cancer and attachment trauma. Journal of Personality Assessment.

Solomon, J., & George, C. (2000). Toward an integrated theory of caregiving. In J. Osofsky & H. Fitzgerald (Eds.), WAIMH Handbook of Infant Mental Health (pp. 323-368). New York, NY: Wiley

Solomon, J., & George, C. (2008). The measurement of attachment security in infancy and childhood. In J. Cassidy & P. R. Shaver (Eds.), Handbook of attachment: Theory, research, and clinical applications (2nd ed., pp. 383-416). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Solomon, J., & George, C. (2011a). The disorganized attachment-caregiving system: Dysregulation of adaptive processes at multiple levels. In J. Solomon & C. George (Eds.), Disorganized attachment and caregiving (pp. 3-24). New York, NY: Guilford Press.
Solomon, J., & George, C. (2011b). Dysregulation of maternal caregiving across two generations. In J. Solomon & C. George (Eds.), Disorganization of attachment and caregiving (pp. 25-51). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Webster, L., & Joubert, D. (2011). The use of the Adult Attachment Projective Picture System with assessments of adolescents in foster care. Journal of Personality Assessment, 93, 417-426.

West, M., & George, C. (1999). Abuse and violence in intimate adult relationships: New perspectives from attachment theory. Attachment and Human Development, 1, 137-156.

West, M., & Sheldon-Keller, A. E. (1994). Patterns of relating: An adult attachment perspective. New York, NY: Guilford Press.

COMPETENCIES CLASS 6

• Ability to assess child consciousness within your field and your client’s field and help yourself and your client transform it.
• Ability to build your biological consciousness container and uplevel its biological cap
• Interventions on: Adult Consciousness-3 Skills Triangle and Transforming Child Consciousness
• Ability to notice and then move out of defensive aspects of the Victim Triangle
• Ability to building your consciousness container and helping a client do the same
• Ability to track developmental regression in a client
• Ability to energetically work with child consciousness

Introduction to the Biological Consciousness Container

Be Kind to Your Human

Energy is Consciousness

Self-Healing Child Consciousness Stage 4

Self Healing Child Consciousness – Chair

Three Skills of Adult Consciousness

TRANSFORMING CHILD CONSCIOUSNESS INTO HVC

Once a client is at least Stage 4 of Me-B Transformation, we can notice when they have regressed and then work with the energy to help them transform the past and create a positive future. Methods to invoke regression follow.

Use the 5 Steps to help them heal the blocks from them embodying the 3-Skills of Adult Consciousness and thus heal their negative defensive patterning of their attachment system.

Below are some tips to help them regress to a younger place. This may or may not be necessary.

Repetitive/Deep Breathing

Using deep repetitive breathing techniques can invite the subconscious to emerge. Often times, this process reveals child consciousness, trauma, birth challenges, and/or past life issues. There are many breath work workshops that train people in this area. Some use a plastic coke bottle with the bottom cut out. They breathe through the open spout for 15 minutes deeply to create the regression. Other techniques simple support sustained continuous deep breathing. It is important to never do this alone, under the influence and/or without a trained supporter.

Notice Triggers

Triggers often have their origin in child consciousness and/ or trauma. A dialogue intervention such as, “I noticed you were triggered.” Or, “Your field seemed to be triggered,” can help the client notice what is happening.

How Old Do You Feel?

When you notice a client is developmentally regressed, you might ask them how old they feel. This often deepens self-awareness and usually deepens them into the regressed experience. If they have an Enlightened Ob­ server, transformation is possible.
Dialogue with the Emotion

Any of these dialogue interventions can lead to a regression.

• “I notice you are feeling an emotion.”
• “That emotion feels strong.”
• “Let’s stay with that feeling and follow it more deeply.”
• “Can we pause here and stay with that emotion?”
• “Keep exploring those feelings.”
• “Let yourself deepen into that emotion.”
• “Feel how young you were when that emotion was strongest.”
• “What message does that emotion bring?”

Any of these dialogues usually brings clients deeper into the emotion or experience and into regression. If not, we can back up and reestablish contact with the client and check our field to make sure we are balanced. It is helpful to self-assess what is going on with us at this time and to assess the defenses/ego strength of the client.
Another method of dialoging with an emotion is to read information about the emotion in the field and to make a comment based on the information we receive. This will gently open the door to their inner child’s needs, feelings or fears. Something like:

• “I wonder if you felt you had to do it all on your own.”
• “Were you able to really let in all that love?”
• “Did you stop believing in yourself?
• “Speaking your truth must have been hard.”

Transformation

Finding and feeling the energy of the wounded child is only the beginning. It can be easy to help someone identify their pain and past issues. (Stage 1­3 of ME­B Transformation.) The real work is to raise the vibration and consciousness of the past by being effective, clean and gentle in the present. Transforming child consciousness can be divided into three main areas:

• negative attachment patterns
• needs that were not met, and
• harm to undo.

Sometimes transformation can be accomplished simply by: (1) isolating a need, and (2) meeting that need.

For instance, having a client speak up for themselves when they couldn’t speak up as a child is a wonderful gift. Giving them the right to say “no” to Mom/Dad and claim their personal space and power back can be very transformative. And, as always, the Me­B guide can check to see if the issue has shifted in all three systems (mind, energy and body).
It could take many sessions to clear these unmet needs, and most likely the work will concern an issue they may have to revisit again, yet at a deeper level. (The issue may arise 100 times, and 100 times we may need to transform it.) The higher the client reaches in the 10 Me­B Stages, the deeper the work we can do be­ cause the client can hold themselves and they know they are not the negativity that moves through them.

• Step one is to notice when the client (or we) are triggered.
• Step two is to feel where in the body the trigger is being held.
• Step three is to isolate what emotion, image or belief is being held there. Then, engaging the HVC of the Enlightened Observer, feel the feelings (levels 2 and 4 of the Auric field) and allow HVC to transform the pain back into Adult Consciousness. If the Enlightened Observer merges with the pain and loses its HVC, then we just create more pain. This is why the person must be at least Stage 4 of Me­B Transformation. They can use any of the techniques taught previously to help transform LVC. Carefully track the field to see if they are charging the negative feelings or transforming them. Do the containment procedure if they get stuck.

NOTE: As we do the transformation process, remember we need to eventually teach the client to hold a supportive space for themselves. They must be weaned from us and empowered within themselves so the master secure attachment. Help them transition at least to Me‐B Stages 4‐5.

TRANSFORMING CHILD CONSCIOUSNESS Missy had an alcoholic mother and her father abandoned her when she was only one year old. She had no positive mirroring during her childhood and was sexually abused by her mothers’ best friend when the friend was babysitting. During one of our sessions, I noticed Missy’s field was deeply regressed and it felt like she never had the support she needed. I commented, “So, you felt alone and unsupported.” She began to weep. I offered her the chance to receive that support now. I put pillows in my lap and a blanket over her. (I find pillows make it more safe because the boundary between she and I are clearer. Close but not suggestively close.) The weeping continued for a few minutes and then I suggested she might be able to take in the love and support. Her breathing changed, she stopped crying and her chakras began to spin clockwise again as she took in the love and support. This process continued on and off over six months before she could hold this loving Container for herself.

Bring In Adult Consciousness To Comfort the Inner‐Child
Eventually, and as soon as possible, the client will have to master the technique of meeting their own needs by bringing in their own adult to comfort their own inner-child with love or compassion. If we can’t yet do this for ourselves, set a goal to accomplish this skill. Let us not ask a client to do what we can’t do ourselves.
This is a more advanced process and it may take a few sessions (or years) of us “playing” the good enough Mom/Dad, before clients can fulfill that role themselves. There are many methods and styles.

BECOMING OUR ADULT TO OUR WOUNDED CHILD Dorothy was first abandoned by her mom in the hospital after she was born. Two weeks later, her mother eventually reclaimed Dorothy and yet held deep resentment toward her daughter. So deep was the resentment that as Dorothy grew up, her mother emotionally and physically abused her. I began seeing Dorothy at the age of 50. She had been in therapy for over 20 years and was diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). She has a strong spiritual and meditation practice that serves to support her, yet she was still shy about being touched, supported and loved. Table work was too intimate for her and it felt overwhelming. Again and again she would regress to a very young age or disassociate, freeze and lose contact with herself. Eventually she was able to hold and send love to her young self. She described this experience as “holding myself as I would hold a baby kitten.” It marked a substantial shift in her personal process and empowerment. Her ability to hold her own inner child transformed her life in a way 20 previous years of therapy had not.

If our child consciousness holds a sexual/physical abuse or neglect issue, the theme may take months (or years) to completely re-pattern and then it may be revisited every year or so but at deeper levels. This is not bad news. Let it just be part of the human reality we must all face again, and again. Besides, the more we visit the same issues, the more refined and effortless our skills become. It is like learning to move from skiing on greens, to blues to black diamonds. As our skills increase, we can master harder challenges.