CLASS 8 AGENDA
Be the Light in the Darkness So the Void Becomes a Rebirth!
(Review Trauma and Learn Death Transitioning)

Death is a Transition-How to Let It Be Kind Wisdom Waking You to More
Hint: Can You Hold Two Places at Once!!!

• WEEKEND THEME“You must know where you are traveling to…or risk finding yourself in the same spot you began.” Carolyn Eberle, Explorer’s Mind

Death transitioning. Supporting a client through ego death, and the Void revisited are the weekend class themes. For instance, a conscious person may enter the void and repeat this death/rebirth process many times in their lifetime. For without letting go of your old sense of self, you can’t open to the higher consciousness of your new sense of self. When you move through the chasm of the void, you also release yourself from even more unhealthy defenses, negative patterns and false beliefs.In addition, when doing work to help a client transition, (and when going through the void, a metaphorical death) it is also doing trauma work. The energy in the room of a dying person can feel overwhelming, especially if you know the person. And giving up your old sense of self, without knowing who you will become can feel like you are shattered. It can activate feelings of hopelessness, fear and devastation.

As you know, in trauma work, if you don’t keep close at hand the deeper truth of your wholeness, then you risk multiplying the trauma and your negative sense of self and not transforming this low vibrational consciousness back to Core Being. Remember that you are feeling the emotional pain and difficult sensations to melt the clouds and reconnect to the metaphorical sun of your Core Being. Intention line, positive sense of self and your Enlightened Observer must be your best friends during this process.

Yet you won’t make progress if you walk around the emotional pain and don’t touch it. If you let your ego define your safety, you will never be able to do the deeper work! The ego keeps you in the false self and defense – so you can’t transform from defense. Defense is the hard shell holding you back, keeping you from the wound. Defense and the ego’s false self keeps you separated from Core Being. Some clients feel they are touching the false self and painful emotions – but they aren’t going deep enough. If you are not making progress, you are either over-identifying and merging with the pain and/or you are not going deep enough into the core pain, beliefs, orienting reflexes and issues.In this class, you move from the intervention process of bringing the energy of the HVC light into the body/mind systems to being so clearly identified as the light that you enter the darkness and your presence of knowing your light melts away the LVC of the dark.

Coping with Grief and Loss

Whatever type of loss you’ve suffered, there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. But by understanding the stages and types of grief, you can find healthier ways to cope.



What is grief?

Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from shock or anger to disbelief, guilt, and profound sadness. The pain of grief can also disrupt your physical health, making it difficult to sleep, eat, or even think straight. These are normal reactions to loss—and the more significant the loss, the more intense your grief will be.

Coping with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s biggest challenges. You may associate grieving with the death of a loved one—which is often the cause of the most intense type of grief—but any loss can cause grief, including:

1. Divorce or relationship breakup
2. Loss of health
3. Losing a job
4. Loss of financial stability
5. A miscarriage
6. Retirement
7. Death of a pet
8. Loss of a cherished dream
9. A loved one’s serious illness
10. Loss of a friendship
11. Loss of safety after a trauma
12. Selling the family home

Even subtle losses in life can trigger a sense of grief. For example, you might grieve after moving away from home, graduating from college, or changing jobs.

Whatever your loss, it’s personal to you, so don’t feel ashamed about how you feel, or believe that it’s somehow only appropriate to grieve for certain things. If the person, animal, relationship, or situation was significant to you, it’s normal to grieve the loss you’re experiencing. Whatever the cause of your grief, though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can ease your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on with your life.

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• STUDENT SKILLS/OUTCOMES
• Master the interventions taught this week and deepening your understanding of the consciousness skills (EO, CB, Explorer’s Mind; 5 Steps)
• Master the ability to use your intention line to detach from the pain and maintain a positive sense of self anchored into Core Being and not ego. Your ego can’t ever be in charge of your safety. If it is, it will make defenses choices so it doesn’t ever hurt or die.
• Discover how ego does not “be” your sense of self. You instead use the 5-steps to differentiate from all ego sense of self and all ego negative talk.
• INTERVENTIONS
• Death Transitioning

EGO/SUPEREGO

The concept of the Ego can be difficult to understand because it can be illusive and a trickster to find in our Me­B System. For instance, most of us can say, “I feel angry or sad.” However, how often do you hear, “oh, I can feel my ego!”?
Even though it may be a difficult concept to understand, the Ego is an essential supporter to or detractor from our and our client’s transformation. The negative ego and the Superego work extremely hard to prevent personal growth because change means death to these parts of us. In the archetypical “Hero’s Journey” and its dark night of the soul, the ego undergoes a death and rebirth process. The pain and the struggle of this journey are profound because the ego doesn’t want to die.
We can use the Explorer’s Mind to help us and our clients identify which part of the Ego is acting upon us. The Explorer’s Mind can teach us how to identify the ego’s presence in the mind, energy and body so we make choices to either accept or reject its effects upon us.
What are the effects the negative ego or superego may have upon us? Some people equate the superego to the judging voice of a parent. For instance, a parent’s voice may say “you can’t succeed at that,” instead of “I believe in you.”
This energy of the parental judge can be felt physically, mentally and energetically. For example, your negative ego may show itself as an upset stomach every time you work toward a goal, a congested block in your 2nd or 3rd Chakra, or a voice in your head saying you will never make it. As we identify the effects of the negative ego, our Explorer’s Mind can help us transform these obstacles in all three parts of our Me-B System.

Therapeutic Ego Strength Can Be a Trap
Psychologists, psychotherapists, and counselors discuss the level of Ego Strength a client has in order to assess how deeply they can go into their emotions and trauma. If a client doesn’t have “enough” Ego Strength, it is said that their Negative Ego is too strong and their Positive Ego is not strong enough. In Me-B TransformationTM, we believe this type of analysis to be a trap. Because the ego vibrates at the Programmed Personality Level, it is based on duality (one aspect is good another is bad).
Instead of prioritizing the positive ego over the negative ego, we can acknowledge that in our human forms, we will always have our ego. Sometimes our ego will speak kindly to us and sometimes it will speak to us with negative self-talk. We need to learn how to be OK, regardless of what our ego does. It is very important that we learn to detach from any negative or positive effects of the ego and live from our Core Being.

Anytime the ego defines us, it lowers our frequency, even if it is the positive ego. This is because our Core Being has the highest vibrational consciousness, higher than the dualistic energy of our positive ego. Core Being lets us anchor into our divine truth so we are better equipped to transcend the effects of ego. Positive ego vibrates at the level of our Programmed Personality, a lower frequency than Core Being. As we learn how to feel/sense the difference between the negative ego, positive ego and Core Being, we support our own empowerment.

The Explorer’s Mind must learn to train our Me-B System so it knows not to react to any ego vibration. Because the Negative Ego/Superego does not want to die, it will fight to stay alive. If we learn to unhook our energy from the ego, then it has nothing to fight against.
The negative ego/superego may have lived lifetimes repeating the same patterns, and it feels threatened when we begin to see ourselves in a more expanded and whole state. It attempts to trick us into remaining the same.
The stronger we are, the more talented is our ego trickster. Excel and Leader character types can have very elusive egos, and their positive ego can be very strong. Heart-centered and compassionate character types can have very loud negative egos. The Spiritual character type tends to have an ego that is hyper-vigilant, looking to withdraw toward safety.

From the Manifest Energy Intention Line, we are more detached and less emotional. While in our Manifest Energy, we can let our Explorer’s Mind teach us to watch the effects of the ego upon us. This is especially true when we are able to watch the ego’s effects from the place within us that is deeply connected to Core Being. Then transcendence and healing is promoted. If the negative ego or superego acts upon us from the place of our Core Distortion, it feels very painful. Learning how to watch the ego from a healthy place within us (Core Being) allows us to re-pattern the negative and accept the positive.

The death-rebirth process of our Ego is an ongoing life­long process. For the spiritual warrior, it never ends. The universe will always invite a situation into our life where we find our self bumping up against the edges of our negative ego. It is the warrior who sees this as an opportunity and a gift.
Maybe life does this so we have the opportunity to see ourselves at a deeper level and see our next piece of personal work. I sometimes call this another “blankety-blank” growth opportunity— the expletive being that it is usually quite difficult and painful!

However, as we begin to view what is happening from the detachment of the Manifest Energy and Explorer’s Mind, we can use our Enlightened Observer to help us reconnect to our Core Being. When this happens, our relationship to the pain can change. We can become aware of what is happening instead of feeling victim to what is happening. We learn how to transform versus collapse, dissociate or reject.
Some believe the human ego supports our individuation and supports our ability to co-create. It is a trickster because it also prevents our individuation when the negative ego takes hold. In expanded states of consciousness—such as when we connect to our Core Being—the negative ego dissolves, the positive ego emerges and our Core Being can be accessed.

In psychological trainings, much is said about supporting Ego Strength. In Me‐B TransformationTM, we strive to move out of the dimension of Ego and into Core Being. We don’t teach Ego Strength; instead, we teach using our Explorer’s Mind so we have the positive intention to use our Enlightened Observer and connect to our Core Being!
This process is much simpler to explain than to actualize. Yet, as we focus on what we can do, we get more of what we can do. The Explorer’s Mind can send kindness and compassion for the parts of us that get lost along the way.

We enter arrogance, denial or collapse when the Ego takes charge!
Shadow
1. Explain your Dark/Golden Shadow and how it might make it difficult for you to view reality clearly.
2. By connecting to in the body/energy system, we can reveal our shadow/subconscious.
Ego
1. Explain superego, negative, and positive ego.
2. Explain why “ego strength” is not the highest vibration. What might work better for you?
3. Where is the ego held energetically?
4. What is the death-rebirth process of our ego (the Hero’s Journey)?
5. What are your ego challenges and some solutions to help you so you more clearly see yourself, others and the reality before you?

Procrastination

CORE DISTORTION TRAUMA INTERVENTION

The third Intervention and the other type of Core Distortion Intervention is a trauma Intervention. This is when you and your client’s light of wholeness awakens in the center of the trauma in a manner in which the LVC transforms to HVC.

Not everyone is ready for such a deep and profound intervention. And not every healer is ready to do this intervention with a client. Please read the below counter-indications for this intervention. Over the last decade of teaching this intervention, I’ve found that it can take a few months of doing the previous interventions with a client (in some cases a year or more) before I do this intervention with a client or student. Make sure you and your client are ready for this so you (or the client) doesn’t rewound.

I know some people believe there can be no re-wounding during hands-on energy healing, yet that is just not the case. Please take this seriously and move at the pace that is correct for you. In essence, you will be releasing, re-patterning, replacing the LVC with HVC.

• Release the merging of your client’s self-identity and release your client’s biological programming to the trauma. This helps rewire the brain and body systems (biological consciousness container) become reprogrammed to higher consciousness. In essence you are helping the client individualize, detach and differentiate from the trauma.

• Re-pattern new neuro-networks in the mind, brain and body so the LVC trauma has no energetic or emotional grid to hold onto.

• Replace the trauma with a deep anchor into wisdom, Core Being and positive new way of being in the world so the negative past doesn’t repeat in the present! In essence the LVC is replaced by HVC.

Counter-indications for this intervention and who is the right fit to receive it!

If your client is not able to first connect to their Core Being and also self-identify as Core Being, then you must wait until they have this skill. Remember, you don’t want you or your client to merge with the negative LVC energy. Because if they merge with the LVC it is like spreading black paint throughout their energy field and their sense of self. If this happens, it will create more LVC energy. (See next module for more discussion on this topic!)

Step 1:

Uncover the LVC trauma asking for transformation. Then locate where the LVC trauma is held in the client’s body. It is also useful to know the end game or what it will ultimately transform to embody. Or at least have an idea of where you are headed. Just as if you get trapped in the jungle and it is nice to have a map to lead you out, think about the end game of transformation and keep your eye on the prize!

Because the LVC is one of the layers, know that the negative belief or emotion may change during the course of the healing. You must learn how to track the energy and consciousness so that when the consciousness changes and goes to deeper and deeper levels, you will be able to catch up.
Give yourself time to slowly grow your skills and practice, practice, practice!

Step 2:

Now I want you to actually feel the depth of pain with your hands and mind, but don’t merge with the pain.
Remember, you are feeling it simply to help your client transform it. Let your hands and mind resonate at the pain, then let both of your hands and mind slowly raise their frequency back to Core Being (HVC) of the positive alternative.

Ask your client to also feel the emotional pain and do the same.

Take your time and go slow.

Track the energy field and make sure there is enough HVC in both you and the client so it transforms as opposed to simply re-experiencing and feeling it.

If your client just re-experiences the emotional pain and does so at the same level of consciousness that created the pain, then you are just spreading black paint around!

There is a famous saying from Einstein that you can’t solve a problem with the same consciousness that created the problem. This same principle applies energetically, too.

Assess if it is happening at a higher frequency, even a slightly higher frequency.
Bring in the Enlightened Observer to help. Really let the Enlightened Observer help your client!

Again, the video is a good summary of how you can help them transform it.

And just know that it may not be able to transform completely.

Assess when it can transform as much as possible and when you need to end the intervention. And assess when there is more that can be transformed and you can continue. The video is a great demonstration that explains this!
As always, reach out for support when you need it!

TRANSFORMING CHILD CONSCIOUSNESS INTO HVC

Once a client is at least Stage 4 of Me-B Transformation, we can notice when they have regressed and then work with the energy to help them transform the past and create a positive future. Methods to invoke regression follow.

Use the 5 Steps to help them heal the blocks from them embodying the 3-Skills of Adult Consciousness and thus heal their negative defensive patterning of their attachment system.

Below are some tips to help them regress to a younger place. This may or may not be necessary.

Repetitive/Deep Breathing

Using deep repetitive breathing techniques can invite the subconscious to emerge. Often times, this process reveals child consciousness, trauma, birth challenges, and/or past life issues. There are many breath work workshops that train people in this area. Some use a plastic coke bottle with the bottom cut out. They breathe through the open spout for 15 minutes deeply to create the regression. Other techniques simple support sustained continuous deep breathing. It is important to never do this alone, under the influence and/or without a trained supporter.

Notice Triggers

Triggers often have their origin in child consciousness and/ or trauma. A dialogue intervention such as, “I noticed you were triggered.” Or, “Your field seemed to be triggered,” can help the client notice what is happening.

How Old Do You Feel?

When you notice a client is developmentally regressed, you might ask them how old they feel. This often deepens self-awareness and usually deepens them into the regressed experience. If they have an Enlightened Ob­ server, transformation is possible.

Dialogue with the Emotion

Any of these dialogue interventions can lead to a regression.

• “I notice you are feeling an emotion.”
• “That emotion feels strong.”
• “Let’s stay with that feeling and follow it more deeply.”
• “Can we pause here and stay with that emotion?”
• “Keep exploring those feelings.”
• “Let yourself deepen into that emotion.”
• “Feel how young you were when that emotion was strongest.”
• “What message does that emotion bring?”

Any of these dialogues usually brings clients deeper into the emotion or experience and into regression. If not, we can back up and reestablish contact with the client and check our field to make sure we are balanced. It is helpful to self-assess what is going on with us at this time and to assess the defenses/ego strength of the client.
Another method of dialoging with an emotion is to read information about the emotion in the field and to make a comment based on the information we receive. This will gently open the door to their inner child’s needs, feelings or fears. Something like:

• “I wonder if you felt you had to do it all on your own.”
• “Were you able to really let in all that love?”
• “Did you stop believing in yourself?
• “Speaking your truth must have been hard.”

Transformation

Finding and feeling the energy of the wounded child is only the beginning. It can be easy to help someone identify their pain and past issues. (Stage 1­3 of ME­B Transformation.) The real work is to raise the vibration and consciousness of the past by being effective, clean and gentle in the present. Transforming child consciousness can be divided into three main areas:

• negative attachment patterns
• needs that were not met, and
• harm to undo.

Sometimes transformation can be accomplished simply by: (1) isolating a need, and (2) meeting that need.

For instance, having a client speak up for themselves when they couldn’t speak up as a child is a wonderful gift. Giving them the right to say “no” to Mom/Dad and claim their personal space and power back can be very transformative. And, as always, the Me­B guide can check to see if the issue has shifted in all three systems (mind, energy and body).
It could take many sessions to clear these unmet needs, and most likely the work will concern an issue they may have to revisit again, yet at a deeper level. (The issue may arise 100 times, and 100 times we may need to transform it.) The higher the client reaches in the 10 Me­B Stages, the deeper the work we can do be­ cause the client can hold themselves and they know they are not the negativity that moves through them.

• Step one is to notice when the client (or we) are triggered.
• Step two is to feel where in the body the trigger is being held.
• Step three is to isolate what emotion, image or belief is being held there. Then, engaging the HVC of the Enlightened Observer, feel the feelings (levels 2 and 4 of the Auric field) and allow HVC to transform the pain back into Adult Consciousness. If the Enlightened Observer merges with the pain and loses its HVC, then we just create more pain. This is why the person must be at least Stage 4 of Me­B Transformation. They can use any of the techniques taught previously to help transform LVC. Carefully track the field to see if they are charging the negative feelings or transforming them. Do the containment procedure if they get stuck.?

NOTE: As we do the transformation process, remember we need to eventually teach the client to hold a supportive space for themselves. They must be weaned from us and empowered within themselves so the master secure attachment. Help them transition at least to Me‐B Stages 4‐5.

TRANSFORMING CHILD CONSCIOUSNESS Missy had an alcoholic mother and her father abandoned her when she was only one year old. She had no positive mirroring during her childhood and was sexually abused by her mothers’ best friend when the friend was babysitting. During one of our sessions, I noticed Missy’s field was deeply regressed and it felt like she never had the support she needed. I commented, “So, you felt alone and unsupported.” She began to weep. I offered her the chance to receive that support now. I put pillows in my lap and a blanket over her. (I find pillows make it more safe because the boundary between she and I are clearer. Close but not suggestively close.) The weeping continued for a few minutes and then I suggested she might be able to take in the love and support. Her breathing changed, she stopped crying and her chakras began to spin clockwise again as she took in the love and support. This process continued on and off over six months before she could hold this loving Container for herself.

Bring In Adult Consciousness To Comfort the Inner‐Child
Eventually, and as soon as possible, the client will have to master the technique of meeting their own needs by bringing in their own adult to comfort their own inner-child with love or compassion. If we can’t yet do this for ourselves, set a goal to accomplish this skill. Let us not ask a client to do what we can’t do ourselves.

This is a more advanced process and it may take a few sessions (or years) of us “playing” the good enough Mom/Dad, before clients can fulfill that role themselves. There are many methods and styles.

BECOMING OUR ADULT TO OUR WOUNDED CHILD Dorothy was first abandoned by her mom in the hospital after she was born. Two weeks later, her mother eventually reclaimed Dorothy and yet held deep resentment toward her daughter. So deep was the resentment that as Dorothy grew up, her mother emotionally and physically abused her. I began seeing Dorothy at the age of 50. She had been in therapy for over 20 years and was diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). She has a strong spiritual and meditation practice that serves to support her, yet she was still shy about being touched, supported and loved. Table work was too intimate for her and it felt overwhelming. Again and again she would regress to a very young age or disassociate, freeze and lose contact with herself. Eventually she was able to hold and send love to her young self. She described this experience as “holding myself as I would hold a baby kitten.” It marked a substantial shift in her personal process and empowerment. Her ability to hold her own inner child transformed her life in a way 20 previous years of therapy had not.

If our child consciousness holds a sexual/physical abuse or neglect issue, the theme may take months (or years) to completely re-pattern and then it may be revisited every year or so but at deeper levels. This is not bad news. Let it just be part of the human reality we must all face again, and again. Besides, the more we visit the same issues, the more refined and effortless our skills become. It is like learning to move from skiing on greens, to blues to black diamonds. As our skills increase, we can master harder challenges.

SUPPORTING A CLIENT THROUGH THE DEATH PROCESS AND THE FAMILY THROUGH THE GRIEVING PROCESS

If a chronic illness is terminal, a client will need much support. The Tibetan Book of the Dead and Elisabeth Kubler Ross’s books can be important resources in this manner. (Her books include: On Children and Death; Life Lessons; On Life After Death; Rise Above It; Death is of Vital Importance; To Live Until We Say Goodbye; On Grief and Grieving.)
Kubler speaks of the stages of death, dying and grief as movement through emotions such as denial, anger, bargaining, grief, and acceptance. In Me-B transformation, the grief and death process can be looked at as a continuum of movement through four major stages. Just as concentric circles deepen within each other, over time we move through the four stages at deeper and deeper levels.

FOUR TASKS OF GRIEF/DEATH AND DYING

Acknowledge the loss and the emotional pain. Emotions such as anger, sadness, and/or hopelessness. With our Enlightened Observer, feel and release the discomfort in the mind, energy and body systems. Open to the possibility that something positive could fill the gap left empty when the pain is gone.
Actually fill the gap in all 3 Me-B Systems with something positive. An internal positive could be Core Being and any self-awareness gifts/lessons we received during this difficult challenge. An external positive could be feeling more connected to community or rearranging priorities so that we find a new job or…. If we are in the grief process, we must eventually reinvest in life after the loss. This is what it means to “fill the gap.”
If we or our client is on the verge of dying, filling in the gap could mean that we have found enough trust and safety to surrender to god in the form of our physical death. So, under the right circumstances, death from a chronic illness can become a positive form of transformation.

SUPPORTING THE FIELD OF A DYING PERSON

This process is about the client reclaiming their divinity. Life, like death, can be an effortless flow. Flow becomes the divine. What makes death hard is the ego at the personality level because a part of it doesn’t want to let go. Instead, it wants to hold on to some concept of self. Through the death process we can help them let go and surrender to “no self”.
Just as when we work with our clients we aspire to work from a place of Core Being or “no self”, when we die we also endeavor to release old concepts of self and move toward being the open vessel that god can move through. In Me-B Transformation this is stage 7 and in some cases stage 8.
Our deepest passion and longing is to let go (and of course, part of us doesn’t want to). When we fully let go we become the vessel for source to move through.
Being alone or with others
During the dying process, some people want to be alone. Think of the story of the older dog leaving home to be alone to die. However no death or person is the same, and some people want a witness to their experience and/or they may want a guide to help them travel through the dimensions and release their soul.

As a person dies, their field begins to disintegrate until only the upper levels of the field remain. During this stage, a dying person becomes very sensitive to their external environment. The veils between this dimension and the higher dimensional fields soften. Clients will often see and speak with family members who have passed on and may communicate with their spirit guides.
As a Me-B Guide it is important to honor the sensitivity of the client during their transition to the nonphysical form. Friends and family may be in a highly agitated state and unwilling to accept what is happening. Heighten emotions can make it harder on the person dying. Holding a strong Intention Line can help shift the mood in the room and create more trust and clarity. Just as a client walks in with their own healing, so does a client walk in with their own death process. Every death I have assisted in has been different. Being able to track and be supportive of the client’s own way of leaving the physical body is crucial. There is no “right way!” There is only THEIR way.

CASE EXAMPLES OF ME‐B DEATH AND DYING SESSIONS

CASE EXAMPLES OF ME‐B DEATH AND DYING SESSIONS